Laverne Cox was trending this week for an interview she did with Attitude Magazine recently and some comments she made were grossly twisted for a sensational headline.

We know this thing happens often but the headline was so misleading and validating of homophobia she was forced to clear it up and I thought it deserved to be blogged about.

Laverne Cox says men who are ashamed of dating trans women are ‘insecure as f*ck’

was the headline that and many other blogs ran with causing black social media to jump all over her. She released this statement on Instagram to clear things up.


Since this headline was taken a bit out of context to be clear I am referring to men who seek out and have sex with trans women but choose to keep us a secret. I am not saying men not attracted to trans women should be. I believe we all have our preferences and that’s beautiful.  But many trans women I know are far too often reduced to being sexual objects or fetishes by men who treat us as if we don’t deserve to be loved in the light, out in public and integrated into their lives as worthy partners. I am here for every trans woman out there to tell you you are worthy to be loved in the light. You deserve more.  Any man who won’t be seen with you in public, who won’t introduce you to friends and family after an appropriate amount of time dating, is not worth your time. Those men, whatever they are going through, need to go through that without the benefit of our beauty and light in their lives. Once they have gotten themselves together spiritually, then we should give them the benefit of our company. #TransIsBeautiful, so very beautiful.  Own it, feel it, live it, love it!

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In this context I completely agree. If you’re dating trans men or women, but you’re ashamed to be dating them then someone is doing something wrong. The fetishization of trans leads to so many murders and it also marginalizes them to sex industry work. However you feel about their gender there are millions of men and women who find them attractive and society shouldn’t shame any two consenting ADULTS out of loving who they want to love.

I know its very easy to sensationalize trans humanity and the hoteps will have us believing blacks should hate, isolate, and shun trans African-Americans, but they’ve always been here and always will be. Harmony and “live and let live” might be a better approach.

If you can’t do it in the daytime you might wanna refrain from it at night.

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