Now let me preface this by saying that women can actually be classy and modest in the nude. But I do not like an exchange that happened between the teammates of the American Olympic team and feel like Gabby Douglas is being thrown under the bus. Here’s what happened.

A member of the Fierce Five squad that won gold at the London Olympics, Aly Raisman, has said she, too, was sexually abused by USA Gymnastics’ longtime team physician.

Aly confirmed the abuse in an interview with 60 Minutes, which is to air Sunday night. The three-time gold medalist and captain of the 2012 and 2016 Olympic teams also describes it in her book, Fierce, being released next week

Raisman’s revelation comes a month after fellow Fierce Fiver McKayla Maroney came forward to say she was abused by Larry Nassar for several years, beginning when she was 13.

Nassar pleaded guilty to federal child pornography charges in July, and he faces 22 to 27 years in prison when he’s sentenced on Dec. 7. He also faces 33 charges of criminal sexual conduct in Michigan.

The sex abuse scandal led to the ouster of USA Gymnastics CEO Steve Penny, who resigned in March under pressure from the U.S. Olympic Committee. USA Gymnastics announced this week that Kerry Perry, formerly the vice president of business development at Learfield Communications, would start as CEO on Dec. 1.

Since then Aly has been extremely vocal about the abuse on her social media.

She made some quotes that women and girls should be able to dress however they want.

Team mate Gabby Douglas wasn’t completely on-board and added that women should also dress classy as well. That’s when star team mate Simon Biles jumped in to chastize Gabby and affirm her support to Aly.

Now Gabby is being accused of victim-shaming and treated as if she was the abuser or supports the abuser. I have so many problems with this and lost a lot of respect for Simone Biles. The hypocrisy we are seeing in many women is what creates an atmosphere where only SOME victims feel heard.

Poor Gabby

This woman has been through hell on her Olympic journey. Always an outsider and always alone. When she first won the Olympics the main focus was her hair.

Everyone commented on it so much that it gave her a complex throughout the rest of the competition. Very few stuck up for her with the “sister solidarity” Simon Biles only grants her white team mates.

It was no secret that her relationship with Gabby Douglas is cold at best and many blamed Gabby, but I never saw it that way. I feel Gabby had already proven herself. Simone was always came off like a diva, but the fake nice diva that kills the audience with kindness so you don’t see the true personality. I love her athleticism, but as a returning champion the responsibility wasn’t on Gabby to kiss up to a bunch of newcomers. They came for her spot and there was definitely a competitive edge there where Simone was more of the aggressor. {In my humble opinion of course since I don’t know these people. Only studying the archetypes they put out there}

poses for a portrait at the USOC Rio Olympics Shoot at Quixote Studios on November 20, 2015 in Los Angeles, California.

Simone had a privileged upbringing and always came off during the Olympics to me to have more of a camaraderie with the white girls. Gabby was older than the other girls and they were VERY immature if you remember. Always giggling and talking about boys and typical valley girl things. We all know that type. You can never call them out because they’re the head cheerleaders and their fathers are doctors. Simone has even thrown some shady tweets at Gabby before over misunderstanding.

I feel they try and make themselves look like the nice ones while subliminally boxing Gabby out and making her look like the one who doesn’t fit in. It’s a passive aggressive form of bullying girls master at a young age.

Mixed Signals

I think implying that Gabby was victim shaming was demonic and immature and the main reasons why teenagers shouldn’t be the main voice of the fight against predators. They lack the life experiences to put things into context. And, in turn, send out the wrong messages.

Earlier this week rapper Nicki Minaj posed for the cover of the often racy Paper Magazine and turned heads.

Rapper Eve, who is the new table mate on The Talk, said that she did not approve of it and it went to far because young girls are watching and it automatically makes them role models. She said it “wasn’t right” while all the other women agreed.

Eve was praised on multiple blogs while Gabby was accused of victim-shaming. Nevermind the fact that Gabby was NEVER referring to the abuse and ONLY responding to Aly Raisman’s assertion that young girls should be able to wear ANYTHING. And never ONCE did she imply that young girls could not wear what they wanted. She only added that the way you present yourself will sometimes attract unwanted attention.

I don’t think it’s fair to be attached to abusers just because you want to voice to your fans to be aware of the world we live in.

But there is something else I feel uncomfortable with as well. Aly’s new “voice” also feels like a press tour for her new book. I feel she’s exploiting sexual abuse for financial gain while acting like some sort of martyr. I’m not saying it’s true, but it does feel strategic. And it feels like anyone who doesn’t swallow the entire narrative is branded a “victim shamer”

Simone Biles interrupted and important conversation in to say she was not surprised by Gabby’s statements is her way of shaming women who do feel that young girls are impressionable and should be taught early to carry themselves with integrity. Young men should be taught the exact same thing.

Maybe instead of bullying other women with a valid stance and bring personal, petty prejudices into the conversation we can focus on the ACTUAL victims and not attach women to them just because they disagree with their stance on how to protect young girls. After all…you are role models.

Gabby did apologize with more grace and maturity than she was attacked with because she realizes the bigger picture is the sex abuse and not the ego of girls who wish to promote an agenda.

I just feel that Aly and Simone want to be this bold NOW and want everyone to see them as heroes, but for whatever their reasons they did not. Whatever those reasons are gives them no right to now come out and bully people for disagreeing with how other role models choose to influence their audience.

I think there is room in the conversation to go after the real villains for their abuse AND teach young women to be aware of how girls present themselves. And not to let their abusers off the hook or in any way suggest their attire is a factors in their abuse. But just the opposite. Don’t dress a certain way to challenge your abusers either because thats another way they win. 

And be careful of those who only speak out when it financially suits them and those who fight harder to bully others into accepting their opportunity as martyrdom.

 

 

 

 

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